Boundaries Aren’t About Pushing People Away
Hey guys,
Let’s talk about boundaries.
Not the “screw you, stay away from me” kind. The real kind—the kind that makes space for both connection and self-respect.
There’s a quote I love that describes boundaries:
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”
– Prentis Hemphill
That’s it. That’s the whole thing.
Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away. They’re about protecting the space where love, connection, and self-care can all coexist.
They’re not rigid walls—they’re flexible bridges that help us stay connected without losing ourselves.
So many of us were never taught this. We either say yes when we mean no, or we blow up and shut people out completely.
But the truth is: you can care deeply about someone and still say, “Not right now.” Or “This doesn’t work for me.” Or even just, “I need space.”
That’s not rejection. That’s self-respect. And over time, it builds better relationships—not fewer.
Tool for the Week: The “Boundary Check-In”
Ask yourself:
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Where in my life am I feeling resentful, drained, or overextended?
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What boundary might I need to re-establish—or express for the first time?
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How can I communicate that boundary with honesty and care?
Even a small shift—a kind no, a clearer request, a pause before agreeing—can change everything.
Need Support With Boundaries?
Let me ask you this:
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Do you often say yes when you really mean no?
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Do you feel guilty when you try to take space for yourself?
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Are you afraid that setting boundaries will push people away?
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Do you carry resentment because you keep showing up for others—but no one’s really showing up for you?
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Do you want to speak up, but don’t know where to start?
If you nodded yes to any of these, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.
Inside Groups For Men, you’ll get access to daily support groups and private coaching from experienced coaches who can help you set boundaries that actually stick. You’ll also be part of a real community—men who are practicing the same things, showing up honestly, and getting better week by week.
The first 7 days are completely free. Come see what it’s like to have this kind of support.
You don’t have to do this alone.
What are you waiting for?
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