Letting Go of Blame — A Tool for Growth

In Letting Go, Dr. David R. Hawkins teaches that blame is a projection of our own inner discomfort. When we blame others, we hand them our power. We avoid the deeper feelings of hurt, fear, or inadequacy sitting underneath. Blame says, “You made me feel this way,” but Hawkins challenges us to take a courageous step inward instead.

“The energy of blame traps us in lower states of consciousness. To rise, we must reclaim responsibility for how we feel.”

⚒️ This Week’s Tool: The 3-Step Blame Breaker

Next time you feel the urge to blame — your partner, boss, family, or even yourself — pause and use this tool:

1. Name the Feeling

   Ask: What am I actually feeling underneath this blame?

   (Is it rejection? Fear? Shame? Disappointment?)

2. Own It

   Say out loud or write:

   “This feeling is mine. I’m willing to feel it without needing to blame.”

3. Let It Breathe

   Sit with the feeling for 90 seconds. No fixing. No judging. Just presence.

   Often, it will dissolve or soften on its own.

🔁 Bonus Challenge:

Keep a running list in your phone this week titled “Blame to Ownership.”

Each time you catch yourself blaming, write:

“I moved from blaming ___ to feeling ___.”

By week’s end, you’ll notice: less tension, more clarity, and deeper connection.

Need a place to talk through what’s coming up?

Join one of our men’s support groups this week. You’re not alone in this work — and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

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